Welcome to this week’s Mailbag! One reader wants to know, Whats wrong with women today? Lots of times, people don’t feel comfortable posing questions publicly, neither in the blog comments nor on Facebook. They will however hit me in the inbox from time to time.
The Problem With Women and the Point of Getting Married
The following question was a loaded one, so this time, I’m going to limit the mailbag to just one.
From Nightmares After Divorce:
P. G. from Gainesville Florida writes,
From a single man’s perspective I too had the same dreams. Although I would ease my mind; keeping myself busy so I wouldn’t have to think about it, I would still have dreams in which I would wake up in cold sweats wondering what is going on. In my opinion, I feel as though I really can’t trust women like I used to.
To me, it’s like women want the finer things in life, they want to be nurtured, cared for, loved, etc. but don’t know how to work towards getting it or just expect it to happen because they are the female. It causes a lot of disconnect. Joan, I want to get married one day. I do! But, if you can answer this… How can one get married to someone if the woman doesn’t have the mindset of a woman? In this generation, every female wants to have a mindset of a male, but they aren’t us. If GAMES are going to be played, why not just stay single?
There’s Truth in Numbers
Percent Distribution of U.S. Households by Type, 1940-2010
|Married couples with children||42.9||44.3||30.7||23.5||20.2|
|Married couples without children||33.4||30.5||30.2||28.1||28.2|
|Single parents with children||4.3||4.1||7.2||9.2||9.6|
Women Have Changed
- trauma and painful experiences in our lives
- absent fathers
- growing up watching our parents totally misrepresent what good relationships look like
- not knowing how to love ourselves